Divorcing a Narcissistic Husband | Empowering Yourself to Break Free 

Unfortunately, for some individuals, ending a marriage with a controlling spouse is the only way to regain happiness and well-being. Though the process may be challenging, you can take steps before initiating a divorce to ensure a smoother experience if you decide to proceed.

This article series or mini course, outlines ten essential steps to help you navigate the complexities of divorcing a controlling, manipulative, and narcissistic husband.  

Of course, if you're ready to consult with a divorce attorney to talk through things in person, just click the link below to schedule a meeting with one of our experts specializing in cases like yours.

If you prefer a more visual approach, watch the video below for a concise summary of the key points to consider when divorcing a controlling husband. Our experts combine their expertise in Divorce and family law to provide you with the most comprehensive and accessible information.

If you choose to start this mini course on “Divorcing a Controlling Husband”, you’ll be able to move through each of the articles below in a series. By the end, you’ll have a basic understanding of each topic. 

And at Bruce Law, we’ve found that the more educated you are the easier the process will be and the better you’ll feel throughout it.  

Welcome to the Steps to your Future!

Step 1: Identify the Predator

This article emphasizes understanding the true nature of your controlling husband, who may exhibit traits of narcissistic personality disorder. It provides a list of common behaviors to help you recognize if you’re in a toxic relationship. The article highlights the importance of accepting that your husband may never change and suggests seeking an experienced therapist to develop coping strategies and make informed decisions about your future. 

Step 2: Realize You Have the Power to Change

This article addresses the importance of recognizing your role in the current state of your marriage and understanding that you have the power to change your life. It clarifies that you are not to blame for your husband’s abusive behavior, but rather that your choices led to your current situation. By acknowledging your power to make better decisions, you can create a happier life for yourself. This realization is essential for gaining control over your destiny, adopting a more positive mindset during the divorce process, and avoiding repeating past mistakes in future relationships. 

Step 3: Define the Life you Want (Your Vision!)

This article emphasizes the importance of envisioning your life after divorce before moving forward. By answering key questions about who you want to be, what makes you happier, where you want to live, and how divorce is a necessary part of achieving that life, you can create a clear picture of your desired future. Having a well-defined vision helps you make purpose-driven decisions throughout the divorce process. If you struggle to define your ideal life, consider seeking the help of an experienced therapist who can guide you towards understanding your goals and whether divorce is the right solution. Writing down and revisiting your vision regularly can keep you focused on your desired future. 

Step 4: Get Realistic about how your Husband will behave during the divorce

Get Realistic about how your Husband will behave during the Divorce – This article discusses the importance of being realistic about your controlling husband’s behavior during the divorce process. It’s crucial to recognize that he may attempt to manipulate, intimidate, or undermine you throughout the proceedings. By preparing yourself for these potential behaviors, you can better navigate the challenges ahead and make informed decisions. It’s also essential to maintain a support network of friends, family, and professionals to help you stay strong and make the right choices during this difficult time. 

Step 5: Keep Quiet – Don’t Let him Know

This article emphasizes the importance of discretion when considering a divorce from a controlling husband. It advises against discussing your intentions or plans with him before taking necessary steps to protect yourself, your finances, and your legal interests. By keeping your intentions private, you minimize the risk of your spouse’s attempts to manipulate the situation or retaliate against you. Additionally, maintaining confidentiality helps ensure you have the advantage of surprise, allowing you to get the necessary support and resources in place before initiating the divorce process. 

Step 6: Get organized for Divorce

In this step, the article advises readers on the importance of safeguarding their financial interests when planning to divorce a controlling husband. Key recommendations include gathering and organizing financial records, opening a separate bank account, establishing credit in your own name, and consulting with a financial advisor. By taking these measures, you can ensure that you have a clear understanding of your financial situation, protect your assets, and be better prepared for the financial aspects of the divorce process. 

Step 7: Plan Your Getaway

When divorcing a narcissistic or controlling husband, consider where you can go and how you can fund your temporary escape. If possible, move out during the divorce process to avoid manipulation and pressure from your spouse, which can jeopardize your settlement. 

If finances permit, stay with relatives or in a second home, creating distance from your spouse. You’ll also need to secure short-term funds for living expenses and legal fees, potentially through family support or strategic asset control. 

Although good lawyers may seek payment from your husband, they’ll require upfront payment for the initial months of work. Costs can range from $15,000-25,000 for depositions and court hearings. 

If funds are unavailable, discuss your options with a lawyer who can help create a tailored strategy. Generally, if clients can access financial resources for short-term separation during the divorce process, it’s recommended. 

Step 8: Boundary Testing

When divorcing a controlling husband, be prepared for boundary testing as he tries to control you and your lawyer during the process. To handle this, be assertive without being confrontational.

Start practicing independence by not following his rules or asserting yourself in small ways. This gradual progress will help you feel more in control and closer to the life you want to live.

Boundary testing will be an issue during the divorce, so consider taking small steps now to stand up for yourself. If you don’t have a therapist, consider finding one to help you with this aspect of the process. You can find qualified therapists on www.StayMarriedFlorida.com or by contacting your lawyer’s office for recommendations. 

Step 9: Get Moving

It’s essential to start taking proactive steps towards a fulfilling life, especially when considering a divorce from a controlling spouse. While knowledge is undoubtedly vital, don’t let the pursuit of information paralyze you from taking decisive action. 

This article outlines the steps to take action! 

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